Proof that Jesus answers prayers...

no, he didn't come to my house with a cake and a meal and make me have good hair. This is better, well, sort of. Having Jesus over for a birthday dinner would rock hardcore, but he sent this along with his regrets.


I found this while searching for the perfect (read: easy and quick and mess-free) chocolate cake. Now I just want a beer.

Okay, *whip cracks in the background* back to work. Cakes...cakes...cakes...hey, did you hear about......NO. Stop it, Lola. You have work to do.


I have spent so much time giving Michael crap for blowing off my birthday last year that I totally forgot that TODAY IS HIS BIRTHDAY! Anyone have a spare birthday cake handy? I've got the presents, I just have to wrap them, make a cake, find some candles, clean the kitchen, get showered and changed and made up enough to easily convince him that the best way to celebrate is to go out to dinner and no way is this a ploy because I forgot to thaw out the pot roast and didn't even remember what today WAS till 1pm.

Yup, I'm dead meat. Plus, I lose all that great guilt I had built up from last year and totally lose my upper hand. oops.



Do you remember...

I totally stole this from Ann. It's on my myspace blog too. Here's the link to my page if you don't have it.

Fill this out about your SENIOR year of high school! The longer ago it was, the more fun the answers will be.

1. Who was your best friend?
Karen and Holly, my favorite baby brother Joe

2.What sports did you play?
varsity homework avoidance

3. What kind of car did you drive?
whatever car i could weasel my way into. mostly my mom's oldsmobile.

4. Where were you on Friday nights?
wherever my friends were, the mall, the movies, or whomever's house we talked into hosting the party...including mine.

5. Were you a party animal?
we had parties often but they were the least rebellious parties ever.

6. Were you considered a flirt?
yes, but no boys ever took my flirting seriously. never, not once.

7. Ever skip school?
yup, and every time the people i was skipping with got in trouble and i just got sent back to english class. i guess they figured that having ms. jones was punishment enough.

8. Were you a nerd?
i'm with ann on this one. i floated. i liked most everyone and they tolerated me.

10. Did you get suspended/expelled?
no, but in my senior year we considered a walkout on the day the governer cut funding for art, band, and theatre. i told my parents that if it happened i'd be walking out and suspension would follow. they actually respected my position and gave me permission to walk out.

11. Can you sing the fight song?
all i remember is that it was the same tune as the Kellerman's song at the end of Dirty Dancing.

12. Who was your favorite teacher?
Mrs. Hogan, and Mr. Runge for art, and i actually kinda dug Madame Megenity. we made a truce at one point. she was odd, i was odd, we worked around the odd. plus, she got bored with the curriculum a lot and let us play french Bingo for days on end.

13. Favorite class?
French (because i rocked the house at Bingo) and art (better have been. i was there 4 periods a day)

14. What was your school's full name?
New Albany Sr. High School

15. School mascot?

16. Did you go to Prom?
several of them.

17. If you could go back and do it over, would you?
i am lucky to have gotten out alive the first time. whoever said high school was the best time of their life never went to college...or Vegas.

18. What do you remember most about graduation?
1) they made me sit next to the stinky guy and when amy and i complained the counseler said andiquote "look on the bright side. maybe someone will give him some soap for graduation." that was our guidance staff, people. we ended up stashing perfumed hankies in our clutches.

2) we had a protest during our ceremony. people walked behind the grads with signs because our basketball coach said some very racist and inflammatory things to his team.

3) BIG GIANT STORM during the speeches. I thought the ceiling was gonna cave.

19. Favorite memory of your Senior Year?
Harvest Homecoming, chasing "that boy" around and acting like it wasn't totally planned. it SO was.

20. Were you ever posted up on the senior wall?
if there was a senior wall it would have only held photos of the basketball team. i am 5"1', no chance. however, we were not organized enough to have a senior wall. i was in on the decorating of the senior hallway during spirit week though. it was awesome, that's what.

21. Did you have a job your senior year?
i worked at the mall in the arcade. it was then i made my pact to never again wear a vest and bowtie.

22. Where did you go most often for lunch?
if i didn't hitch a ride with someone to taco bell i used lunch as a merely social time and crashed in the caf with my friends, avoiding every alleged food source available besides sweet tea. i do find myself missing the square pizzas now and then, but only when premenstrual.

23. Have you gained weight since then?
i have gained an entire high school senior. one on the football team.

24. What did you do after graduation?
after the ceremony? took a whole bunch of my friends to an expensivish dinner on my Uncle Freddy. it was his restaurant. he went out of business soon after. i'm just sayin' we might have milked it a bit.

25. When did you graduate?

26. Where are most of your classmates?

27. Are you going to your ten year reunion?
i went to our 10 year, it was way more fun than i expected. our 15 is next year, and i hear we're gonna keep it simple and have a big blowout for the 20. seriously, am i really old enough to be talking about my 15 and 20 year high school reunions? i quit...really. i'm done now.

28. Who was your home room teacher?
i couldn't tell you her name on a bet. she was the home ec teacher. i think it started with an "S".

29. Who will repost this after you?
you never know.


the David playlist

So you know what weird forms my sentimentality comes out, this is the playlist I made to honor David.

It Takes Two-Rob Base and EZ Rock
Sending All My Love-Linear
Kokomo- The Beach Boys
Make Me Lose Control-Eric Carmen (incidently, this is the one that makes me cry)
Hold On-En Vogue
We Didn't Start The Fire-Billy Joel
The Humpty Dance-Digital Underground
Do Anything-Natural Selection
I Saw Him Standing There-Tiffany
Miss You Much-Miss Jacksonifyou'renasty
Jungle Love-Morris Day and the Time
Poison-Bel Biv Devoe
Paul Revere-Beastie Boys
Just A Friend-Biz Markie
Damn, I Wish I Was Your Lover-Sophie B. Hawkins
Set Adrift on Memory Bliss-PM Dawn
Surfer Girl-The Beach Boys
Blister In The Sun-Violent Femmes

Color me emotional. Lemme know if anyone wants a copy. (snort)


When you find out you lost something you didn't realize was gone.

We all have those friends. You know, someone you grew up with, or went to summer camp with, or went to college with, etc. Those friends who you have enduring love for but life has stretched you so far this way and them so far that way that for some reason you haven't seen them in a few years. No worries though. Sooner or later the phone will ring or they'll end up in your driveway or you run into them at a baseball game and they are still as much your friend as they were when y'all were 14 and sitting close enough to the campfire to torch your marshmallows, but not close enough to irritate your monster sunburn.

I have several of those friends. Today I have one less.

David. He died a few months ago. He died as the result of a disease I didn't know he had because he wasn't diagnosed till recently and I haven't seen him in a couple of years. He died because someone was so purely evil they decided to break into his house and steal his stereo equiptment, and while they were there they took all the prescription meds out of his house too in case one of those meds was something fun. It wasn't. It was a medicine to keep him from rejecting his newly transplanted kidney. He died in March. I found out last night.

For two and a half months I have been without him. Okay, for two and a half years I haven't seen him, but he was the kind of guy that refused to write off a friendship because time and life have caused some shifts. There were certain friendships that meant too much to him to let go. I was lucky to be one of them and I didn't try nearly hard enough to keep that friendship current. He did. And I loved him.

We grew up together. Our families had cabins on a man made lake here in Kentucky. His cabin wasn't next door, but the door after that. We spent every summer together. Most of my favorite childhood memories included him. Our summer routine was as follows: get up, immediately put on your swimsuit, go ahead and pour two bowls of cereal because David will be here before I'm done with mine and I get one of his Pop tarts (2 to a package) and he gets some Cap'n Crunch (I was only allowed to eat crappy cereal in the summer since the parentals had turned me over to the spoiling granparents), pack a cooler of cokes and a bag of whatever chips we have on hand, fill up 2 squirtguns because Scott's gonna need some coaxing to get out of bed, make David blow up the raft, pile on someone's boat, don't return till dinner.

I'm not going to tell you what the evening rituals were. Some magical childhood times just belong to the ones involved. We called the lake Mecca for a reason. It was special. It was one of the things in my childhood that hasn't lost its magic with the cynicism of age. That, I keep. Plus, my mom reads this blog occasionally.

The only one who reads my blog who *knows* of what I speak is Karen. The fact that she shares those oh-so-dramatic, magical, giggly childhood secrets with me helps. There isn't a way for me to convey with words what those times, those friendships, were like. It is a feeling.

I don't just have memories of David. They are sense memories set off by the most random of things. The smell of Baby Oil mixed with iodine, catching the last part of a Digital Underground song while flipping through the radio stations, the taste of Little Debbie Oatmeal Creme Pies, the squeak of styrofoam against the wood of the boat dock, the crackle of your very own campfire, the taste of beers lifted from your parents' fridge. And the feeling of flying as someone pushes you so high on a swing that you're sure you're gonna go right over the top bar, or at least hit the wires, but it's okay because he's not gonna let you hit the ground.

And he's also not gonna let you flirt with Shane Underwood without having to deal with serious moody pouting.

That's David. The Wall o' Hair hisownself. I didn't know I missed him, but only because I didn't know he was lost. There is one less person in the world who loves me unconditionally. I took that for granted. He was always there, it stood to reason that after 32 years that wasn't gonna change. I'm the one with multiple health crises. He's the guy who tells me to stop being a baby, but carries my bag up the hill anyway.

This sucks out loud.

I'm going down to the lake in two weeks, our first trip down there in a couple of years. Ima spend some time with my friend. I know exactly where he is. I just hope I can push the swing on my own.


here a meme, there a meme

everymeme is a chance to copycat. hey, at least it's an update.

Body: 1] What was the highlight of your week?
my dad telling me how much he loved the father's day gift i made him.

2] Who's car were you in last?

3] When is the next time you will kiss someone?
the next time i pass my husband in the hallway. happens every time.

4]What color shirt are you wearing?
black and pink

5] How long is your hair?
too long. but i have my own personal hairbanger with her own personal brand shiny new diploma!!!!!

6] When was the last time you read the bible?
last year

7] Last movie you watched?
i couldn't even begin to know how to spell it. it was in Hindi. it's a Bollywood summer, baby.

8] Last thing you ate?
last night's dinner

9] Last thing you drank?

10] Where did you sleep last night?
my bed

11] Are you happy right now?
i'm trying my best.

12] What did you say last?
i'll bring dinner over in about an hour. (i should probably be making instead of meme-ing)

13] Where is your phone?
no idea

14] What color are your eyes?
blueish grey

15] Who did you visit last?

16] When was the last time you had your heart broken?
about a year ago

17] Who/what do you hate currently?
my mother in law, but i'm working on that. for me, not her.

18] What are you listening to?
Maroon 5 singing The Sun

19] If you could have one thing right now what would it be?
one solid 24 hour period that i don't have to take care of anyone but me.

20] What is your favorite scent?
baking bread

21] Who makes you happiest right now?
not sure but anyone is welcome to give it a shot.

22] What were you doing at midnight last night?
snoring anf drooling

23] Are you left-handed?

24] Spell your name without vowels:

25] What's for dinner tonight?
fattucini with freshly baked bread

26] What is the last alcoholic beverage you had?
beer. mmmmmmmm beer.

27] When Is Your Birthday?
July 3rd

28] Last time you went swimming in a pool?
last year, but jenny keeps trying to get me there. i WILL get there someday.

29] Where was the last place you went shopping?
Hobby Lobby

30] How do you feel about your hair right now?
root city. might need to do something about that.

31] Do you have any expensive jewelry?

32] AIM or MSN?

33] Where does most of your family live?
KY, and IN mostly

34] Are you an only child or do you have siblings?
1 sister

35] Would you consider yourself to be spoiled?
that'd be a yes

36] What was the first thing you thought when waking up?
what time is it? is it time to call Mo yet?

37] Do you drink beer?
yes please.

38] Myspace or Facebook?

39] Do you have T-Mobile?

40] What is/was your favorite subject in school?
art, french, and english (except for Ms. Jones CP english. that was just tragicly heinous. she was scary.)

41] What are you doing?
filling this out and procrastinating making dinner.

42] Do you have any talents?
good grief i hope so

43] Have you ever been IN a wedding?

44] Do you have any children?
not yet

45] Did you take a nap today?
not yet

46] Ever met anyone famous before?
a few

47] Do you want to be famous one day?
not particularly. i have enough people wanting my attention as it is. famous is far too much work.

48] Favorite Actor(s)?
raise your hand if you knew i'd say john cusack, my second husband.

49] Could you handle being in the military?
*snort* serously, have you MET me?

50] Do you believe in Karma?
you betcha

51] Last time you went to the gym or worked out?

52] how many pairs of shoes do you own?
whole bunch lot.

53] Last place you drove your car to?
Mo's. that'll be the next place i drive my car as well.

54] Ever been to Las Vegas?

55] Have you ever lived in a two story?
yes, a couple of them. and a 5 story too, if you count the dorm.

56] Have you ever been gambling?

57] When is the last time you updated your blog?
a couple of days ago

58] Have you been to New York City?
no, but it is a possibility in the next few years.

59] Ever been to Disneyland/world?

60] Do you have a favorite cartoon character?

61] Last thing you cooked?
dog food

62] Hows the weather?

63] Do you e-mail?

64]Last time you were sick?
migraine yesterday that is sorta hanging on, lying in wait for me to relax to come out full force.

65] Do you think anyone will repost this?


Where the hell have YOU been?

Because I've been in legal hell. Now that it is over and done with I am free to share the storm we have weathered, and it was of Katrina caliber. However, that is a story for another day. Ima have to work up to that particular post.

Instead, to ease my way back into this blog I figured I'd just share a few photos of my nephew instead. Be prepared for the cuteness because Brayden is bringing it big time.

This is how he started out last June. Teeny tiny lil cheesin' boy.

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This was him on Christmas morning.
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And in January with his bestest friend in the whole world, Ruby. She adores him. He adores her right back.
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And here is my precious, perfect big guy on his very first birthday, June 3rd.
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with some of his loot.

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with his birthday boy crown his Auntie Lola bought him

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with cake in his ears

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getting hosed down to remove cake from his ears

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and in his new pool that his grandparents bought him!

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Nope, not spoiled at all. Why do you ask? He's just the cutest boy EVer, that's all. With a mug like that can you really blame us for showering him with toys and affections?

Okay, someday soon I'll start with the updates. Life hasn't gotten any less weird or hectic so I'm sure I'll have something to say eventually. My computer does have a hate on for blogger and only lets me post sometimes but I have most of the bugs worked out for the moment so let's see how we roll.

Other than 5 deep, that is.